Every person, situation and relationship is different. That’s why it is difficult to answer the question “why does he want to have sex with me” in general terms.
But there are some things that you can look out for to see if he only wants sex or not. These are: 1. He’s horny.
1. He’s not interested in you
A man who is genuinely interested in you will be more than happy to spend time with you in ways other than in the bedroom. He will probably want to see you during the day, go out to eat with you or even take you shopping. He will be a lot more receptive to serious conversations about your relationship and how you guys can make it better.
If he doesn’t seem to care about your feelings or even about the way you dress, it’s a pretty clear sign that he is only in it for the sex. He will probably also feel annoyed if you aren’t in the mood for sex all the time.
Another telltale sign that he is only into you for sex is if he becomes distant once the hookup is over. He may leave straight after you’ve slept together or he might start to avoid spending any time with you. He might even get a bit snippy if you text him asking him to hang out again. If he actually liked you, he’d be happy to hear from you whenever you wanted to chat!
2. He’s not ready
If he’s still swiping or chatting or dating other people, he’s not ready to put his focus in you. This is a really bad sign and can lead to cheating.
It’s also a sign that he doesn’t have the maturity to commit to one person. He probably has a case of the grass is greener syndrome. Juggling all these other matches is very time consuming and he might not be able to give you the full attention that you deserve.
If you feel like he’s only interested in sex, have an open conversation with him about where you are headed. Try to have this conversation when you’re both free and won’t be distracted. This is important to discuss in order to avoid any miscommunications that could ruin your relationship. If he says that he’s not ready to have sex with you, respect his honesty and move on. Trust your gut and listen to your heart – you deserve to be happy! It may take a little longer but it will be worth it. You will find the right guy for you who will love and cherish you.
3. He’s afraid
Men can get really nervous around women they like. They worry that if they don’t act right, they will lose you. So if you notice him fidgeting or sweating a lot, this is a sign that he is scared to have sex with you. He also may avoid introducing you to his friends because he doesn’t want his pals to know that he’s into you.
He’s also likely to get a little jealous when you talk about other guys. He’s protecting you, and he’s trying to make sure that other men don’t come between you. This is a good thing. He’s trying to protect you from a world that has hurt him in the past. Follow your intuition and trust that he has your best interests at heart. He just needs a bit of time to find his way. Your patience will pay off eventually. He’ll let you know when he’s ready.
4. He doesn’t want to hurt you
When he says he wants to have sex with you, it could mean that he wants a physical connection with you. This is fine, as long as you are both on the same page about what sex means for your relationship. If you are not, that’s something you need to discuss with him.
For instance, if he makes naughty jokes about your “swimsuit areas” or if he is dropping sexual innuendos left and right, it’s a clear sign that he wants quick and easy sex with you. On the other hand, if he tells you that he’d like to make love with you and wants a serious relationship, this is very different from just wanting to have sex with you.
He might also show other signs that he cares about you, such as touching your arm or shoulder when he talks to you, giving you back rubs, or making sure he can spend a lot of time with you. He may even talk about your future together and ask for your advice a lot.
5. He’s jealous
Jealousy is a complex thing and it’s hard to pinpoint what exactly triggers jealous feelings in a guy. Each person, situation and relationship is different but if he reacts negatively when you mention that cute guy he’s been chatting with or an old flame who just came into town then it’s definitely something to be wary of.
He also might be jealous of how well you’re doing in your career or how many nights a month you spend hanging out with your friends without him. When he begins to keep count and compare himself to you, this is a sign that he’s jealous of your success.
Jealousy can also cause a guy to become paranoid and suspicious of others. He may start asking his friends where you’ve been hanging out or questioning your answers to other people’s questions about you. This kind of behavior is usually a bad sign, especially if he’s prone to violent outbursts. It’s also a red flag when he gets angry at you for no apparent reason. It’s important to find a time to discuss this sensitive topic when both of you are calm and unburdened by the day-to-day stressors of life.
